Trust & Betrayal

Why is it most often the case, that the persons to whom you are closest, are usually the ones who will quicker & more easily disappoint you? Could it possibly be due to the fact that these persons are the ones you 'let in' more than others...?

Whether sadly or not, most relationships thrive on TRUST. Without it, most bonds would perhaps be non-existent. It is the light that illuminates the darkness to the concerns almost always faced in relationships. But what governs when you have trusted and been deceived... been betrayed? Yeah... so, you'll probably put an end to the situation (and the person) that caused you the grief, but what of other associations?

I've always been a trusting person and perhaps, needless to say, I've been disappointed... many times. I'm sure most persons who take on a similar outlook, will or have been also. I'm a positive person & so I tend to approach situations with an open mind, almost always hoping for the best.

I've had many positive, successful outcomes hence my continued loyalty to people & to relationships. I have friends whose philosophy is to "expect the worst but hope for the best". It's a negative outlook to have on life but it seems to work for them. Unlike me, they tend to handle disappointments much better. It's as though they were mentally prepared for the worst to occur & when it did, they were fine... Disconsolate, but still perhaps happy that they didn't put too much trust in a person or a situation.

It is logical to have your guard up & to be wary of people but it can take away from a situation. Who knows? Maybe one of these days I'll fully accept & appreciate that code but for now, my belief is that "there will always be more good than bad in the world".

What have your experiences been like & what is your standard?

"I don't trust him. We're friends." - Bertolt Brecht